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This is one of my best friends’ babies. In her hands is a custom order from someone who’s friend lost her son to suicide last week. A son who was this age once. A son who was fiercely loved and valued and squeezed tight. A son who will always be their baby. My heart cannot fathom the overwhelming grief. Our only hope? To lift our eyes to the One who is our help in every season and situation. Jesus, come quickly.
It seems the Lord is teaching me a deeper (more experiential) meaning of what Paul talks about when he describes servants of God as “sorrowful, yet always rejoicing” (2 Corinthians 6:10a). • You see, there is so much good happening. So much joy, provision, and depth of community. So many doors opening. So many opportunities to minister and be ministered to. So much love and humility and grace and kindness and care that it has made me—quite literally—cry into a plate of chicken and waffles from the mercy of it all. • These scattered beams can only be explained by the Lord, who is dropping joy bombs and grace explosions all around. • But it’s not all chicken and waffles. • (Link to blog post in profile ❤️)
“All in all, it was a never-to-be forgotten summer—one of those summers which comes seldom into any life, but leave a rich heritage of beautiful memories in their going—one of those summers which, in a fortunate combination of delightful weather, delightful friends, and delightful doings, come as near to perfection as anything can come in this world.” -L.M. Montgomery
“[It is] as if [David] had said, Separated from God I am nothing, and all that I attempt to do ends in nothing; but when I come to Him, I find an abundant supply of strength. It is highly necessary for us to consider what we are without God; for no man will cast himself wholly upon God, but he who feels himself in a fainting condition, and who despairs of the sufficiency of his own powers. We will seek nothing from God but what we are conscious of wanting in ourselves. ...the reason why God is represented as a portion is, because He alone is abundantly sufficient for us, and because in Him the perfection of our happiness consists.” -John Calvin, on Psalm 73:26

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Monday Morning Munch No. 112 – Lessons in Grace

grace definition, michael durham

Here are some things about me…

I’m legalistic.
I like the law. It’s measurable. Black and white. I “feel” safe there because it’s easy to see what’s right and wrong.
I’m a natural born grace-resister.

And therefore it’s hard for me to give grace.

I’m like the servant who has been forgiven the enormous debt by the king only to turn around and require pennies from others.

This has been the topic of so many discussions between my pastor and I, my parents and I and, most recently, one of my best friends and I. What’s the deal?

First off, I’m a firm believer in the doctrines of grace.

Grace changed my life.

“…by grace have you been saved through faith…” (Ephesians 2:8-9)

“This righteousness from God comes through faith in Jesus Christ to all who believe. There is no difference, for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God, and are justified freely by His grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus…” (Romans 3:22-24)

Grace continues to change my life.

Grace softens and makes the heart pliable and moldable while the law, on the other hand, hardens and proves/reveals our need for the most beautiful and excellent grace of God. How? Because under the law we see we cannot measure up, rather we’re already dead in it.

We are hopelessly crushed under the demands of the law.

We need a hero. And our Hero comes through, in, and because of grace.

Grace and love swirl and blend together and spill out on mankind in the most visible way on the cross, where righteousness and peace kiss (Psalm 85:10) as God pours out the wrath we deserve (I deserve) on His spotless Son, the sacrifice for our sins.

Grace brings forgiveness.

It ushers us into the Holy of Holies where we who have—by grace—repented and believed in the Suffering Savior can drink in more grace than we could ever contain.

Theologically and intellectually I will stake my life on grace because Grace, in the person of Christ, gave His life for me.

But applying grace is harder.


Because I take my eyes off Jesus. When I’m looking at Jesus and remembering the Gospel and all Christ has done to redeem and reconcile ruined sinners, it’s easier for me to give people the benefit of the doubt and extend what I’ve been given freely (grace, mercy, kindness, love, etc.).

BUT when my eyes aren’t looking to the Author and Finisher of our faith, well, hello, law.

During those times, the love that covers a multitude of sins and quirks and idiosyncrasies isn’t exactly flowing through me because I’ve dammed up the river of grace with my fleshly demands of perfection and expectations of precise performances.

When someone has sinned against me or if I see someone doing something that isn’t “right” or biblically “correct,” what is my first instinct?

Let’s fix this.


But that’s not how grace works. That’s not how God works with His children.

Why is that my default when I’ve received so much grace?

I think it’s because sometimes I’m under this false belief that grace is too soft. I think that grace isn’t what’s actually going to change people. They don’t “deserve” grace, they need the law so they see what’s wrong and repent.

…because that’s definitely worked before. Not.

Recently I’ve received a lot of grace from God through one of my best friends.

They are so patient, understanding and kind, and so great at giving me grace even—especially—when I know I don’t deserve it.

And what happens? Does it make me feel like I have freedom to sin more? 100% no.

It melts me. Humbles me. Challenges me. Unlocks my heart that’s still crusty from the self-imposed demands of perfection and unachievably high expectations.

And not only that, it makes me want to give grace better.

It makes me run to the real Grace Giver, the One whose name is Faithful and True and who rides the heavens to help us. And when I run to Him, He continues to lavish grace upon grace, which frees me to give that grace to others.

Turns out I think about grace all wrong.

Lord, help me give what I need most… grace.

“And God is able to make all grace abound to you, so that having all sufficiency in all things at all times, you may abound in every good work.”
(2 Corinthians 9:8)

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